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Conceptions and Misconceptions: Breaking the Myths of BDSM
Here’s your article rewritten in a more casual, human-sounding tone while keeping the key points intact: BDSM: Busting Myths and Understanding the Reality BDSM—short for...
How to explain BDSM to my friends
Deciding whether to discuss your BDSM lifestyle with people outside the kink community, often referred to as "vanilla" individuals, is a personal choice. You are...
12 ways to stay safe in the BDSM lifestyle
Engaging in the BDSM lifestyle is an exploration of desires, power dynamics, and intense connections. However, this exploration should always be built on the pillars...
Balancing Power Dynamics: 12 Self-Care Tips for Dominants and Submissives
In the realm of BDSM relationships, where Dominants and submissives engage in intricate power dynamics, self-care is paramount to ensure the well-being of both parties....
Embracing Diversity: International Fetish Day!
In a world that thrives on diversity and individuality, there's a day that encourages people to embrace their unique desires and expressions. International Fetish Day,...
The Psychology Around Dominance and Submission
"Why on earth do you want to be a submissive? You are just a doormat and he is taking advantage of you!" (We often hear going...
BDSM and your health - Breast Cancer Awareness
For female submissives and as women, our breasts are an important part of who we are. They come in all shapes and sizes and, for most...
Kink Yoga
(Original article from https://stylecaster.com/kink-yoga/) While it may sound odd at first, BDSM and yoga really aren’t that different in terms of mindfulness, an altered state of consciousness and...
Get fit in your D/s relationship with a forced exercise ritual!
(Original article from http://www.kinkweekly.com/article-dexx/bdsm-scene-ideas-forced-exercise/) Being in Los Angeles, we have the advantage of many many types of dungeons, events, classes, and munches. But what if you...
BDSM 101: Workout Kink
There are truly kinks in all parts of life ... one which you may be familiar with or are itching to get into is the...
Fitness for BDSM pets!
Being fit is not only beneficial to your overall health, but have you tried being a kitten or puppy for hours? Being on all fours,...
The importance of HUGS
In these tough few months where you might not be getting as much affection and human touch as you need, hold on tight because there...
How to Stop COVID-19 From Ruining Your Sex Life
(Original article from https://www.kinkly.com/how-to-stop-covid-19-from-ruining-your-sex-life/2/18793) Being cooped up inside because of COVID-19, also called Coronavirus, is depressing and lonely enough as it is, but for those who...
BDSM Sex Education
(Original article from https://boldpleasures.com/featured/bdsm-training-sex-education-revamped/) Kink and BDSM have always been considered a taboo. However, with the rise of the “50 Shades of Grey phenomenon, it is...
How to come out of the BDSM closet
(Original article from https://medium.com/sexography/how-to-get-out-from-the-bdsm-closet-475dbfaacef3) You need to think carefully before you decide how large a part BDSM should have in your life and what consequences you...
Emotional issues and triggers in D/s relationships
(Original article from http://thejourneyofwill.blogspot.com/2013/02/emotional-issues-in-domsub-relationships.html?m=1) Emotional Issues in Dom/Sub Relationships A few years ago, I met a girl online who lived in Southern California. After some days...
RESPECT in the kink community and BDSM
(Original article from http://www.kinkabuse.com/healthy-bdsm/respect-let-me-tell-you-what-it-means-to-me/) RESPECT Let me Tell You What it Means To Me Respect: to have an attitude of esteem towards; show or have respect...
BDSM 101: Playing Safely and Understanding Risks in BDSM Play
Playing in all sorts of kinky ways and being in the BDSM lifestyle is not without its risks. That’s just a matter of fact! This...
Integrating The D/s Lifestyle Into Everyday Life…
With thanks to Master Arcane for allowing us to republish his article (Source: http://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/integrating-the-lifestyle-into-everyday-life/) A submissive new to the idea of Living The BDSM D/s Lifestyle...
How to explain BDSM to your family
(Original article from https://offbeathome.com/explain-bdsm-to-your-family/) I've been writing about kink online for over a decade. Sometimes, like when discussing the loving depiction of BDSM in The Addams Family,...
Basics of Consent in BDSM (SSC/RACK/PRICK/CNC)
SSC, RACK, PRICK and CNC ... confused? Read this article to find out about the different philosophies of consent in the BDSM lifestyle.
All About Aftercare
What do you like to do for your aftercare? There are common reasons why submissives need aftercare but everyone is different ... someone might need...
Keeping Your Toys Clean and Safe
It is really important for the safety of Dominants and submissives to keep your toys thoroughly clean, particularly if the Dominant is polyamorous and toys...
D/s Rituals: Facts and Fantasies
Rituals are wonderful for reinforcing the D/s dynamic and can keep your sub feeling submissive by doing little ritual acts as well as pleasing her...
The Wrong Kind of D/s Cyber Relationships
Having an online D/s relationship might be the only thing you want, but beware. This article covers some red flags for you to look out...
Having more than SAFEWORDS to feel safe
Having safewords is an important part of a BDSM dynamic (unless you have negotiated and consented not to have them in your relationship). While it...
Health Benefits of BDSM
BDSM is not only a gateway for sexual experimentation that steers away from “vanilla” sex; it can also lead to physical and mental health benefits....
Aftercare - Floating Back to Earth
Aftercare is the last act of the SM drama. It is the culmination, the pulling together of all loose ends, the finishing touches, the final...
Subspace, Subdrop & Aftercare
Most people associate BDSM with the physical aspects of the scene: The floggers, whips, rope, and the like. However, there are many mental aspects to...
Misrepresentation of BDSM
Mainstream culture often represents BDSM (bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, and sadomasochism) as reckless, dangerous, and unhealthy. Recent studies devoted to understanding BDSM and its effects on the...