BDSM 101: Paddles (how to choose and use a paddle)
BDSM paddles are a staple in many beginner kink kits, often found in basic forms. However, there's a vast array of paddles available, featuring different materials, styles, and designs to suit everyone's tastes and needs. Whether you're new to paddles or looking to expand your collection, here's a comprehensive guide to help you choose the right paddle for you and your partner(s).
Understanding Your Budget
As with any purchase, it's crucial to know how much you're willing to spend. While you might admire a handcrafted cherry wood paddle, your budget might only allow for a plastic one. The good news is that the primary goal of paddle play is the sensation it provides, not just its appearance. You can achieve the desired effect—whether it's a sharp sting or a deep thud—without spending a fortune.
Determining the Desired Sensation
Paddles can deliver two primary sensations in impact play: stingy and thuddy. Stingy sensations are felt on the surface of the skin, while thuddy sensations penetrate deeper into the tissue. Generally, paddles are thuddy tools, but some can also provide a sting.
Here's a simple guide to help you choose:
- Stingy Paddles: Smaller, narrow, light, and flexible.
- Thuddy Paddles: Larger, heavy, and rigid.
Choosing the Material
The material of the paddle significantly influences the sensation it delivers. Here are some common materials and their effects:
- Acrylic & Perspex: Similar to plastic but delivers an intense sting. Variations in flexibility, thickness, and density affect the sensation.
- Bamboo: Lightweight and easy to handle but can deliver a significant sting.
- Fur: Usually has a firmer core wrapped in soft material, ideal for warmups or beginners.
- Glass: Intimidating but durable if well-made. Ensure no weak points in the construction.
- Kevlar: Offers little shock absorbency, providing a powerful sting. More expensive and less common.
- Leather: Traditional BDSM material. Can be pure leather or combined with wood for varying sensations.
- Lexan: Tougher and more expensive than acrylic, available in different grades of flexibility and density.
- Plastic: Lower density and can deliver a sharp sting.
- Rubber: Generally thuddy and can be very painful, not recommended for beginners.
- Silicone: Smooth, soft, and stingy. Easy to clean and sterilize.
- Stainless Steel: Rigid, dense, and very painful. Not for beginners.
- Wood: Different types of wood offer various levels of shock absorption and aesthetics.
Example Combinations
Here are some examples of paddle combinations and their effects:
- Large, Round, Rigid, Bamboo: Generally thuddy, but bamboo's lightness adds sting, resulting in a mixed sensation.
- Thin Wood with Holes: Deep thuds from wood, with added sting from thinness and reduced air resistance.
- Stainless Steel, Round, Thick: Extremely thuddy and potentially dangerous in inexperienced hands.
Additional Features
Paddles can come with various additional features to enhance your experience:
- Holes: Easier to wield and hit harder.
- Words/Names: Personalized engravings like names or phrases.
- Images: Decorative engravings or burnt images.
- Wrist Bands: Improved grip but can be cumbersome.
- Spikes: Vampire spikes or larger metal knobs for added intensity.
- Shocking Bits: Some paddles can include electro-shock elements.
- Extra Layers: Additional layers of material for a more pronounced impact.
- Textures: Cut into the paddle or added to the surface for varied sensations.
Getting Started with Paddles
For a comprehensive guide on using paddles, positions, and techniques, refer to beginner guides like the one available at UberKinky. Popular positions include over the knee (OTK), bent over, lying down, and doggy style. The choice of position can affect the intensity and type of sensation.
Paddle Care
Proper care of your paddles is essential for longevity and hygiene:
- Cleaning: Wipe down with hot soapy water, or use antibacterial toy cleaner or alcohol swabs. Avoid submerging paddles in water.
- Wood Care: Use mineral oil for finished wood paddles. Wipe unfinished wood with a damp cloth.
- Leather Care: Condition with leather care products, testing for discoloration first.
Remember, clean toys ensure a safe and enjoyable experience. By taking the time to research and care for your paddles, you can enhance your BDSM play and discover new levels of sensation and pleasure.
