BDSM 101, For submissives/bottoms, Pet Play, Starting Out - 09 août, 2024

BDSM 101: Pet Play

Introduction

Pet play is a role-playing activity found in various BDSM, D/s, and other kink practices. It often involves participants adopting animal personas, most commonly within D/s and power exchange relationships. The chosen animal roles can vary widely, but for this discussion, we'll frequently use kitten play as an example.

This guide isn't exhaustive or prescriptive but aims to provide a starting point for those exploring this dynamic.

Reasons for Pet Play

1. **Ownership**: Pet play allows individuals to surrender control to their Owner, similar to a real-life pet's dependency on its caretaker for basic needs and behavior training.

2. **Consensual Humiliation**: The dehumanizing aspects of pet play can be both humiliating and cathartic for the submissive.

3. **De-stressing**: Relinquishing control can be relaxing, letting the pet focus solely on their role and obeying their Owner.

4. **Fetish**: For some, pet play is inherently sexy or arousing.

General Overview

Pet play involves players adopting roles as domesticated animals like kittens, puppies, or bunnies. Typically, the Dominant acts as the Owner, and the submissive takes on the pet's characteristics. This dynamic can closely resemble other D/s, M/s, and TPE relationships.

Pet play differs from other types of animal play, such as predator/prey scenarios in primal play, which focus on different dynamics like humiliation. It's essential to avoid rigid distinctions within animal role-play since not all animal play is pet play and vice versa.

Human vs. Animal Pets

In pet play, the submissive can either be a human pet or an animal pet:

- **Human Pets**: These pets might not exhibit animal behaviors but embrace the concept of being owned and cared for, similar to a traditional slave.

- **Animal Pets**: These pets fully embrace animal characteristics and behaviors. They might use costumes, props, and elaborate setups to enhance their transformation into their chosen animal.

Roles & Relationship Dynamics

Pet play often involves the submissive taking on playful, non-verbal behaviors, and the Dominant caring for, training, and playing with their pet. The dynamic can include structured training, rewards, and consequences, deepening the pet's sense of submission and ownership.

Activities in Pet Play

- Performing tricks on command
- Using litter boxes or going outside
- Being petted or scratched
- Restricting movement
- Eating from pet bowls
- Playing with toys
- Sleeping in cages or pet beds
- Being led by a collar and leash
- Wearing animal costumes or accessories

Pet Behavior

A pet might meow, purr, tease, scratch, and bite, while the Dominant provides love, training, and discipline. The behaviors will vary based on the chosen animal persona.

Outfits & Costume

Many pets dress up to enhance their animal role, using items like ears, collars, mittens, leashes, and tails. Some might use makeup, contacts, and prosthetics. Others might prefer lingerie or other attire that makes them feel sexy while still acting like a pet.

Training

Training might include hand-feeding, drinking from bowls, sleeping in crates, and performing tricks. Elements of humiliation often play a role, reinforcing the pet's sense of care and submission.

Props & Toys

Props can include balls, yarn, laser pointers, and more. Pets might also enjoy pet beds, crates, or tents for a safe space.

Food & Treats

Only human food should be used in pet play. Suggested foods include bowls of milk, canned tuna, and various cereals. Treats could be goldfish crackers, teddy grahams, and gummy fish.

Rewarding

Owners can reward pets with special attention, pampering, and treats. This reinforces the pet's obedience and deepens their sense of being cherished and protected.

Safety Concerns

1. Bondage: Monitor for proper circulation and ensure quick release mechanisms.
2. Caging: Avoid long-term confinement in small spaces.
3. Food: Only use human food.
4. Outside Play: Protect the pet from harsh weather and provide appropriate gear.
5. Public play: Engage in public play only in kink-friendly spaces.
6. Non-verbal pets: Ensure clear communication methods, including a safe word.
7. Training collars: Follow instructions carefully.
8. Frame of mind: Dominants must be aware of the pet's mental state.

Confinement

Confinement can reinforce submission but should not be prolonged. It's crucial to avoid physical and emotional harm.

Exhibitionism

Some enjoy public displays of pet play. Ensure it is consensual, respectful of local laws, and mindful of potential consequences.

Ownership

Pet play can be casual or involve strict M/s and TPE dynamics. Ensure trust and have provisions for a safe exit if needed.

Sex

Pet play can be non-sexual or include sexual elements, depending on the participants' preferences.

Finding and Nurturing a Pet

Building an Owner/pet relationship involves open communication and mutual understanding. Submissives might explore different animal roles to find the best fit. A contract can help formalize goals and limits.

Considerations

Have in-depth discussions to ensure mutual understanding and compatibility. Respect each pet's unique personality and preferences for a fulfilling and enduring dynamic.