Discipline ideas for your submissive

Discipline in BDSM can often evoke a sense of dread similar to that experienced in childhood when punished by parents or reprimanded by a boss. However, in the context of BDSM relationships, discipline is a crucial mechanism for guiding and improving submissive behavior. The key is to establish punishments that effectively correct behavior and promote a positive outcome.

Tailoring Punishments to the Submissive

One size does not fit all when it comes to discipline. What may be an effective punishment for one submissive could be a reward for another. For example, if a submissive consistently shows up late to sessions and enjoys corporal punishment, spanking would not serve as an effective deterrent. Instead, having them write 50 reasons why punctuality is important and then read it aloud ensures they spend the session reflecting on their behavior rather than enjoying their time.

Ideas for Effective Discipline

Here are some categories and examples of punishments that can be tailored to individual submissives:

Restrictive or Denial-Based Punishments

1. Chastity Belts: Imposing physical restraint on sexual activity.
2. Orgasm Denial: Preventing them from climaxing for a specified period.
3. Early Bedtime: Enforcing a childlike discipline to remind them of rules.
4. Food Deprivation: Skipping meals as a form of consequence.
5. Silent Periods: Denying them the right to speak for a set number of hours.
6. Social Isolation: Not allowing them to see or interact with you.
7. Serving Others: If there are multiple submissives, make them prepare for your time with others and observe without participating.
8. Removal of Enjoyment: Take away something they love for a certain duration.
9. Collar Restrictions: Make them wear a collar they dislike or take away one they cherish (use discretion as this can be significant in some relationships).

Productive Punishments

1. Public Errands: Running errands in provocative or risky conditions, like under a long coat with nothing underneath.
2. Ben Wa Balls: Wearing them while performing daily tasks.
3. Vibrating Butt Plug: Completing household chores with this added challenge.
4. Service in the Nude: Serving you dinner or attending to household tasks without clothing.
5. Essay Writing: Reflective writing on their behavior or why it needs to change.

Pain or Discomfort

1. Sensory Deprivation: Combine with other punishments to increase the challenge.
2. Physical Strikes: Specific number of strikes with an implement, requiring them to count and express gratitude for each one.
3. Clothespins: Attaching to sensitive areas.
4. Brazilian Wax: Scheduling a waxing session for added discomfort.
5. Cold Showers: Short, uncomfortable showers.
6. Forced Orgasms: Using a magic wand for repeated forced orgasms.
7. Soap Mouthwash: Cleaning their mouth with soap.
8. Weighted Nipple or Genital Accessories: Adding weights to sensitive areas.
9. Uncomfortable Ball Gag: Restricting speech with a gag.
10. Kneeling on Rice: Kneeling on uncooked rice for a few minutes, followed by cleanup.
11. Physical Restrictions: Performing chores while bound or restricted.
12. Pennies Against the Wall: Holding pennies with fingers against a wall in a chosen position.
13. Cold Glass Dildo: Inserting a chilled glass dildo (never ice) for discomfort.

Humiliation

1. Naked Exercise: Physical activity without clothing.
2. Announcing Horniness: Verbalizing arousal and reasons.
3. Public Masturbation: Masturbating in front of willing guests.
4. Objectification: Acting as a piece of furniture or an inanimate object.
5. Public Shaming: Discussing their infractions openly.
6. Body Writing: Writing the infraction on their body with permanent marker.
7. Cum in Panties: Wearing cum-filled panties or keeping cum on their body all day.
8. Cross-Dressing: Dressing in the opposite gender's clothing for a day.
9. Eating Like a Pet: Eating from a pet dish or on a plate if they usually use an animal bowl.
10. Embarrassing Ringtones: Using recordings of their orgasms as ringtones.
11. Body Labels: Writing derogatory terms on their body.

Boring or Mental

1. Isolation: Spending time alone to reflect on their actions.
2. Writing Lines: Repeatedly writing a specific phrase.
3. Lectures: Receiving a detailed lecture on their behavior.
4. Corner Time: Sitting in a corner to think about their actions.
5. Bland Food: Eating exceptionally healthy but bland food, like boiled cauliflower.

Final Thoughts

Discipline in BDSM is not just about punishment but about guiding behavior towards positive outcomes. It's essential to tailor punishments to the individual, ensuring they are effective and not inadvertently rewarding. Clear communication and understanding between all parties involved are key to maintaining a healthy and consensual BDSM dynamic.